Don’t know about you, but I get overwhelmed super easily.
This is because I think in my past life I was something super chill, like a Potato… or a rock… or possibly even a sloth.
Highly likely I was all 3 in 3 different past lives… who knows!
The worst thing about being something like a tree in my past life is that my current life’s scaffold was basically designed off deadlines, plane trips, unknowing-ness, YOLO’s and immigration applications! YAY.
So you only have to use your imagination for a split second to visualize that for a good 70% of my erryday life is me looking like this guy 👉🏼 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃
It’s fuuuuunnnnn 😬😬
However, this year it was really, really, really too much. So much so that I flirted quite aggressively with almost/very close to/definitely losing my mind.
It was not fun and a huge ball of anxiety and nerves and feeling nauseous 24/7.
I was just SO super overwhelmed.
So when I got back to the U.K. and found my time and space (meanwhile building my new life in a new, cutest, best city – blog post to come!) I knew something had to change.
I had to start somewhere or this tower of To-Dos built upon my shaky Chill-Girl little overwhelmed knees was going to tumble down in 0.007 seconds.
So I had to design my own Chill Girl steps to help me shift the load around and start ticking things off the big scary lists I had staring me in the face. That worked for me.
1. Get Out Of Bed. Get out of bed earlier. It is literally that simple. No mathematics, scientific, morning mantra style motivation. Good, old fashioned, opening your eye balls when your alarm clock goes off and not closing them again once you hit Snooze.
I know, genius, right?!
When I started taking this super ground-breaking step, I felt like I got a cheeky extra few hours to my day every day. I’d have more quiet time to study in the morning, get ahead with work for the day, go through emails from overnight, write my blog or even just to sit and have that quiet me-time in the morning before my day begun. Just to sit still, have a cup of coffee and mindlessly look through Pinterest, a magazine or watch something completely pointless on TV.
That is my absolute fave nothing-ness that switches off my brain and starts me on a calm wave for the day. It’s just my personal Chill Girl way. 🤷🏼♀️
And I know what you’re thinking, everrryyyy self-help anything says you shouldn’t be on social media or online or have the TV going first thing in the AM, but staring at a Pinterest feed or watching something meaningless on channel E! chills me the F out and updates me on what size Kylie J’s boobs and butt is now/wondering what makeup and skincare these people use because they just look that good?
Basically that is all I wanted out of (my whole life) a morning routine.
A peaceful, quiet start to the day that works for me. And I absolutely love it.
Chill Girl Tip: It wasn’t all at once! I had to gradually build myself up to it!! I didn’t decide one night at 11:35pm that enough was enough and Chill Girl Faithy wanted to wake up at 5:45 every day. It was a gradual thing of about 15-20 minutes earlier every week.
My body gradually got used to it and I didn’t end up a grumpy sloth stomping around the house at 6am resenting my alarm clock.
Which is definitely not the pretty serene morning I had in mind 🤦🏼♀️
2. Make Lists.
Something dumb happens when you tick something off a list. It’s a feeling of self accomplishment so I can cross that Biatch off and say ‘OKAY BOSS ASS, I SEE YOU, YES YOU DID FINISH THAT, YOU HELLA SMART / COOL GOALS AF HUMAN!’.
And…. basically anything that reminds me of all of that deserves to be in my daily routine 😩😂😭
I highly suggest lists if only for that reason 💁🏼
Also at the height of my ‘what the heck is going on in my life I don’t know where to start I don’t know where I am what country huh what huh how help’ overwhelming situation, I was forgetting everything. So I made sure I wrote everything down so I knew everything that had to be done and could easily prioritize it into my day form there.
Chill Girl Tip: Write everything down, but also transfer these to your smartphone and other electronics. I put mine into my phone and (praise Lord for automatic technology) they transferred onto my iPad and laptop. So I have 563738 reminders of anything on my list. So even when I’m out and about in the city, I still get all my reminders and aren’t forgetting anything if I’m out of office for the day. We are Chill Girls, not forgetful girls 💁🏼
3. Section Your Day.
And stick to it! I know it sounds dumb, I also thought it was so, so dumb. Until the overwhelming moment in my life was so hectic I would have tried any technique I found anywhere (literally tried them allllllllll, yoga in the mornings doesn’t work for me and silent meditation is non-existent within my brain capacity 🙃) just to help a gal out.
Literally section and schedule your day.
Chill Girl Tip:Be realistic.I cannot express how important being REALISTIC is here. This is why it is underlined 75 times. You have a much better chance of actually getting things done and organizing your time when you are realistic about not just the amount of time you have, but the amount of time you would like to have to yourself. Otherwise you end up creating a fake schedule, setting yourself up to be let down and feeling 💩
Which then = Wow, Babe, why am I even reading this blog about Productivity?
I have been that 💩 person. It sucks.
Are you home at 6:30? And know you like to zone out for 2 hours after work before you can focus? Do you have to make dinner, or pick up your kids? Do you like to sleep until 10am? Brilliant!
Then you obviously wouldn’t schedule anything over the times that are important to you.
But you know those moments when you’re watching TV and you’re bored & cant find anything to watch? You know those moments you’re staring at your phone screen scrolling through Instagram thinking ‘Mmmm I really shooooould go… XYZ…’ they are the moments your subconscious mind is screaming:
“YOU COULD BE USING THIS TIME WISELY, WEIRDO! GET OFF YOUR PHONE WHILE YOU HAVE THIS PRECIOUS GLIMMER OF TIME AND DO X-Y-Z NOWWWW!”
Those are the moments you schedule your time. Before you enter full-on Inactive Mode staring at someone’s lush insta-feed or pinning your life away on ‘DIY To Do One Day’ Pinterest board.
Physically schedule in your diary/on those pretty lists we wrote up on point #2 😏 : 8:45pm-9:45pm Finish Invoicing.
Then sit your cute booty down and DO IT.
You wouldn’t miss a meeting at work about an important upcoming project. You wouldn’t ever miss your child’s dance concert or football game. Because it’s important and it’s scheduled and set at a time and a place.
So schedule things that need to be done and try to start training your brain to think they are non-negotiable. Hold yourself accountable and you will thank yourself when you’re up to date with taxes, have sorted out your emails and your invoices are all done.
That’s a whole lot-a unnecessary brain clutter that can be sorted out by making a plan and sticking to it! 👊🏼💪🏼👍🏼
You will also feel freakin’ amazing when you actually do what you say you’re going to do. That little secret inner-Chill Girl/Guy values integrity and is cheering your name with Pom-poms doing a song and dance when you stick to your guns and get things done!
Now for the final and most important of them all.
The Beyoncé of productivity.
The Michael Jordon of Gettin’ Sh- Done.
The not-so-secret Secret to being free of all and any and all brain clutter and overwhelming ‘too much to do’ mentality…..
So much so that I can promise that if you actually do this next point, no matter who you are, what corner of the world, what level of busy you are, you WILL conquer your to-do list.
And that is a huge claim but I will promise mine, yours, your grandma’s and your mum’s life savings that it will work.
4. Just Start.
Just START. That is all. Just.
One of my favorite quo
of all time is:
“The only way out is through.”
I can’t tell you how many times I have repeated that to myself over the last year.
It’s not a ‘You can do it!’ Chant. It’s not an inspirational song and dance.
It is fact. It is reality.
And the only way out of any situation is through the situation, so just start.
Once you sit down, look at your list, don’t think twice and just begin, before you know it you’re ticking things off your list, saying ‘OKAY BOSS ASS, I SEE YOU, YES YOU DID FINISH THAT, YOU HELLA SMART / COOL GOALS AF HUMAN!’.
And working your way down that list to pure clarity.
So don’t hold yourself back any longer than you need to.
Humans weirdly love to sabotage themselves because we weirdly like to be the victim and weirdly find comfort in the ‘Poor Me’ story.
Humans are weird.But, news flash. That story is boring and no one actually cares about poor little you because everyone is busy worrying about poor little them.
So don’t be basic, be extra.
It’s not poor you, it’s get your but up in the morning, write down what you need to do, find a time to do it – stick to it – and start.
The only way out is through
That is all.
That is it.
That is the finish line!
In my next life I will refer to myself as the reformed sloth who became a productive super-sloth.
Fine by me!
Got any tips to help stay productive?
Super-sloth would love to know!!