The Chill Girl’s Guide To Creating Healthy Self-Care Habits That Stick

The Chill Girl’s Guide To Creating Healthy Self-Care Habits That Stick

We all know a Sandra Something who spends all of Saturday brunch talking about how “This is really it. I am going to start waking up early in the morning so I’m not rushing out the door to work every day!” .
Just like last week she said she was going to commit to working out 5 times a week .
And the week before where she said she was going to stop going to bed with her makeup on.
I see you, Sandra. Coming up with another life changing habit to try out next week while leaving your ex-habit out on the curb like that.
Like, I get it.

With all the shade we’ve just thrown Sandra’s way (who starts a blog post with such shade and such little appreciation?), we all have just a touch of Sandy in us. Everyone. Everywhere. We’re all just little Sandy’s committing ourselves to one thing after another, setting ourselves up for total Let Down Central when we consume our cappuccino with full cream milk after banishing dairy out of our life forever.

I’m here to say Sandy isn’t all wrong. In my opinion, us humans need a little somethin’ to keep us stretching and pushing ourselves into the uncomfortable. And, all of Sandy’s are great, in theory.

Lets take Sandy’s undying ambition to turn her life around with fabulous habits. How do we make these fabulous habits stick without sitting in the front of Netflix on a Friday night at 3am, 1 ice cream tub and 4 packets of Tim Tams down when we really wanted to be up at 7 for that yoga class.

I am here to save each and every Sandy, one habit at a time.
Because, I have, with recent experience, nailed the Chill Girl’s Guide to setting up habits that stick. With the least amount of fuss humanly possible.

I’ve gone from a 3-cup-a-day (minimum) of coffee to only one in the morning.
I’ve gone from snoozing my life away to being up at 5am no matter what.
I’ve gone from adapting my carb-o addicted eating habits to a CRAZY strict PCOS diet.
Yes. Its possible. I’mma show ya.

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1 . Start Stupidly Small

Like, I’m talking teeny, tiny. Lets look at Sandy’s example:
“I want to wake up at 6am so I don’t have to rush getting ready for work.”
If Sandy currently throws herself out of bed at 8am, setting that alarm for 6am is a one-way ticket to Hittin’ Snooze-ville until 8am anyway.
Unless Sandy has some next level accountability, however, in respect to the Sandy that sets new and improved habits every week in the failures of last weeks attempts, we’re gonna assume she isn’t.
So instead, Sandy sets her alarm for 7:50am 5 days a week. Its a lot easier to wake up 10 minutes earlier than 2 hours earlier.
The next week, Sandy sets her alarm at 7:40am, the next week 7:30. Alllll the way through to 6am, increasing by increments.

The rest then follows like so:

  • Wanna cut sugar intake? Start by not taking sugar in your coffee. Then decide to stop eating that Snickers bar on the way home.
  • Wanna get more active? Start by parking a little further from work so you get those extra steps in every morning and afternoon. Then decide to also make time for a walk on the weekends.
  • Wanna overhaul your skincare regime? Start by a cleanser and an SPF (if you’re a part of the Chill Girl’s Guide Community and not SPF’ing. We got beef!) Then decide to ask a pro about serums or moisturisers that may work for you.

    Make it a process and start stupidly, stupidly small.

2 . Remove Environmental Friction.

I watched this great YouTube video about removing the friction between you and the task you want to achieve. Genius!
Let me explain:

Suzi wants to wake up earlier in the morning but the thought of waking up at 6am in the dark and cold is traumatising. Remove the friction.

Cold?
I keep the cosiest Peter Alexander robe on the end of my bed. As soon as my alarm goes off, I throw on the dreamiest robe anyone could imagine and then head out to the kitchen. Which leads me to my next tip…

Dark?
Leave your dark bedroom, go out into the living room or kitchen and switch on some low light lamps. This usually goes hand-in-hand with a hot beverage. I’m that Basic B* obnoxious person who drinks lemon water every morning. I know, I know. So Millennial of me.

Simply don’t want to get out of bed?
Thats because you don’t need to. Make a list of things you need to do in the mornings to motivate yourself to get out of bed.
My tip? These should be important things. The kind that if they didn’t get done, would totally ruin your day.
Why start the day so cynically? Because while you want to wake up in the morning for your glorious and perfect morning routine, you have to teach your body how to wake up early first. Then you can start tampering with what you’re doing in the AM. So make sure those tasks are damn important. Like washing your hair, making your lunch or ironing your outfit. 
No one wants to go to work with week-old unwashed hair, starving or in an outfit that screams “YES I TOTALY DID JUST FIND THIS IN A DUMPSTER ON THE WAY OVER HERE, NO, SERIOUSLY THANK YOU FOR NOTICING”. 
That kind of important. 

3. Quit The Diet Pill Myth

No lasting change happens overnight. Ever. No matter what they promise you or how much you pay for it.
Just like a diet pill. If you’re banking on a once-a-day tablet to get you 15 kilos lighter in a couple of days, not only should you probably need to talk to a professional about a healthy lifestyle, but you also need to… see, how do put this lightly…. wake up. 

Enter: No lasting change happens overnight. 

You’re not going to set up 155 brand new, shiny, amazing habits right away that you’re going to stick to with ease. It’s not real and it’s not possible. It is always going to be a process. 

You will, just like I did, hit snooze a couple times, flake out on your gym session and decide: Yes, actually. I will order that Brownie serving for two. And no, no I will not need two spoons. Thanks so much. 

It will happen because, oh, I don’t know, due to a weird thing called being human partaking in an even weirder thing called life.
Forgive yourself, Cutie, and get on with the process, thats how you make them truly stick. 
By being the damn glue and re-sticking those puppies every damn day.

E Voila. The Chill Girl’s Guide to creating fuss free habits for yourself, that actually work. 
‘Round here we’re all about how to take the euughhh out of everything and then share it with people who have no time for euughhh, like your gorgeous self.

Thats the life goal and thats also it from your girl Faithy from the Block.
Drop me a line if you concur or correct me if I’m wrong. I love a bit of banter.

Always,
Oh, Livia. x

The Chill Girl’s Guide: 3 Beauty Must-Haves On Amazon That Everyone Needs To Be Using Now

The Chill Girl’s Guide: 3 Beauty Must-Haves On Amazon That Everyone Needs To Be Using Now

I am one of those sad Amazon addicts that finds pure joy in scrolling through until stupid-o’clock putting all kinda of necessary (but really not-necessary) items into my cart.
I’m talking multi-port iPhone charging docks, 1273 different water bottles, coloured pens, humidifiers for every corner of my household… that kind of an addict.

Although my habit is boarder-line a problem (okay, its maybe a problem that there seems to be Amazon parcels arriving every week. Yikes), there are a couple of items I’ve clicked purchase on that have so quickly become must-haves in my daily routines.
Well and truly worth the postman knowing me by face and name and well and truly worth me ranting and raving to you cutie pies, too!
Thank me later, and say Hi to Postman Pat for me!

Body Brush

I bought this beauty 3 years ago and it is the only body brush I use. I love body brushing for the detoxification and circulation-boosting benefits that it has on my body, of course. But, before I had laser hair removal on my legs, it was the only way I could actually shave every single hair off my legs, without any ingrown hairs!
If you’ve dry brushed before, you know its refreshing and actually leaves your skin visibly smoother, immediately. That isn’t a joke, either.
If you haven’t dry brushed, bet your booty you needa start!

Foreo Cleansing Brush

Life changer for 3 major reasons.
1. It isn’t a facial cleansing brush, which can harvest bacteria when stored in their little carry cases – not to mention having to buy new brush heads all the time. It is silicone and sanitary.
2. It doesn’t pull at your skin, it is a smooth, vibrating massage. Instead of tugging and corse bristles scratching away at your skin to cleanse it.
3. The battery lasts… and lasts….. and lasts!! I used to charge my cleansing brush every month or so. The Foreo needs charging every 5-6 months!

Jade Roller

Facial massage, it’s all the rage these days with Asian skincare regimes launching to stardom with all of the health and beauty Gurus.
I love a good roll in the mornings and nights, even just for the self care aspect of it – it is so flippin’ relaxing.
I love loading my skin up and going for a good ol’ roll every morning and night. Try it for that extra bit of TLC.

You. Are. Welcome.
My three favourites beauty gadgets from Amazon that you need right now. If not right now, you needed it yesterday.
Don’t wait one more second, go treat yourself, girl. You deserve it!

What do I need to try from Amazon? Go on, feed my habit, please (seriously though).

Lots of love, Angels
Faithy, Liv, Olivia, Faithy-ella

Ps. I take no responsibility for the amazon addiction you may inherit from this post.

The Chill Girl’s Guide: 3 Easy Office Outfit Styles To Definitely Be The Best Dressed At Work.

The Chill Girl’s Guide: 3 Easy Office Outfit Styles To Definitely Be The Best Dressed At Work.

I dunno about you, but my wardrobe is perfectly split into even halves.

1st half: Okay, okay okay! You got style Girl, rock this to the office you Cutie Pie!
2nd half: Baby Girl, you feeling okay? Do you need to borrow some money for a meal…?

Perfectly even halves.
One half is my Life Attire of blazers and T’s and cute checked trousers.
The other half I like to call Couch Comfies. Probably stolen from my man’s old T-Shirt drawer at some point and those tracksuit pants 4 sizes too big that I manage to fit a hot water bottle into when its that time of month.
Perfectly. Even. Halves.

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The Chill Girl’s Guide: The Evergreen Trend Not Going Anywhere In 2019

The Chill Girl’s Guide: The Evergreen Trend Not Going Anywhere In 2019

I love those trends that go in and then don’t go out.
Thats the key, here. We all have those overgrowing collections of pieces spilling out of our wardrobes (guilty as charged!), but what about the evergreen ones that continue to spill out of our shelves every season, every year?
The ones that you can rely on, that are worth the (not-so-many) pennies!
The ones that pop up on every IT Fashion Girl’s Instagram account. Every. Single. Year.
Now, thats my kinda jam!

So I love when a style trend comes in, hangs around and, better yet, comes back around the next year…. and the next year….. and then the next.
But, I’m a tough judge, I don’t just select any item into this list.
To really qualify as an ever-green style item of clothing:

1. It’s gotta be cute – Check!
2. It’s gotta be something you can pull out in Summer, Autumn, Winter 7 Spring! – Check!
3. You have to look at it and say “Oh yeah, that actually goes super cute with… [insert item of clothing you have worn 3298489 times] t least 1-2 times a week. – Check, Check, Check!

Because evergreen has to mean efficient.
Euuughhhh. You don’t even know the joy it gives me to Check all 3 of those boxes.
And thats because it’s exactly what we’re here to discuss today. Checks.
(I know, I know, that intro was spot on).
Checked skirts, if we’re getting super-duper specific. Which, of course we are.

The checked skirt is an undying breed. Its cute enough to give kinda-cute Clueless vibes, but Badass-y enough to wear in your edgy moment (my all day erryyyday vibe).
Stockings/tights underneath and a cosy jacket for the cooler months and perfectly puffed sleeves or a simple T for the summer.
Its like the Checked Skirt is the real MVP for style staples.

I found my super-affordable and perfectly true-to-size checked skirt from Verge Girl.
And I’m wearing her, very nearly 3 times a week.
She just gets along with everything, like the Cool Girl at school that everyone’s friends with.

She’s simple, she’s effective and, Hell! Thats basically the definition of The Chill Girl’s Guide.


How do you style checked skirts? Or is it checked trousers you’re into (I have a growing collection of them, too… send help!!).
Orrrrrrr, even better yet, is there an even better Evergreen style staple I’m missing?
– Come on! Give me a reason to buy something else fun!
Let me know below.

Thanks for comin’ to Chill!
Your girl,
Liv x

P.S. Although there are no affiliate links used, a huge thank you to Verge Girl for collaborating with me on this post!